How to Keep a Man’s Interest: Be Unavailable

The next comment on my list was:

“If he calls you for a Friday night date on Thursday, or Friday, decline politely. Do not give him any reasons.  Simply say “Oh, I would really like to, but I have other plans, this evening”.”

You do not wish to seem  too eager.  You do not wish to give him the impression that you have nothing better to do than wait for him to ask you out on a date.  It really does show bad manners on his part.  You should never be a ‘last minute thought’.  So, teach him that, if he wishes to take you out on a date, he should give you plenty of notice!

If you keep your answer polite, but do not offer any further information, it will also leave him wondering.  Perhaps he will try harder next time, and he will really have to chase you, now, won’t he? ;)

How to Keep a Man’s Interest: Do Not Call Him.

In this entry, we move on to the next comment on my list in my original journal post:

“Even if he has given you his phone number, do not use it.  Resist all temptation to call him.  Only call him if it really is necessary to do so”.

Now, most men really will not give you their phone numbers unless they are really interested in you.  Why?  Because they do not want a woman who they are not interested in to phone them.  Do you give your numbers to men who don’t interest you?  No, I am sure you do not!  Well, he is no different.

Now, even if a man has given you his number, you really should not phone him unless you absolutely must.  Let him call you!  If he calls, then you know that he is really interested in talking with you.  If you call him all the time, you are really chasing him.  Let him work for your attentions.  You are a really busy woman.  You are desired, and should be cherished.

Women who call all the time, over the slightest little thing, send the wrong message to a man.  It tends to have the opposite effect than the one you are after.  Leave him wondering what you are up to.  It will keep him on his toes, and allow him the thrill of that chase that I keep mentioning so often ;)

How to Keep a Man’s Interest: Don’t Bed Him Too Soon.

Alberto Vargas

Well, in keeping with my series of posts about how to lose a man’s interest, these posts will discuss my reasoning behind how to keep him around, if that is what you wish to do.  Now, let me begin by saying that these methods are not guarantees that he will stay around!  If a man is not interested, then he is simply not interested, and it is better to just let him go, and move on with your life.

The following is the first statement in the list that I mentioned in my journal entry:

“Do not sleep with him on the first date.  In fact, do not sleep with him until you have had several dates, and have both decided that the time is right to do so.”

There are many reasons why this is a good idea, and it is not only so that you can keep him interested in pursuing you.

It is a good idea because you do not know, at this stage, if you will be compatible with each other in different ways.  By taking your time to get to know each other better, you will be in a more intelligent, level-headed  place to make a judgement about whether allowing him to bed you is the right choice!

So, let him know at the outset, that you are a very special woman (and a very smart one).  And, as such, you do not rush into such things!  He will be intrigued!  Do not concern yourself that he will simply move on to another woman if you do not sleep with him straight away.  If he does, then he was not for you, and you have just saved yourself a great deal of heartache.

However, here’s a little secret for you! Even if he does go on to bed a woman who is much ‘easier’ than you are, you, lovely reader, will be the elusive woman who is on his mind!

And never, ever forget that a man enjoys the chase!  Don’t deny him this simple pleasure.  He will thank you for it.  Really ;)